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It’s “Cool” to Live The Golden Rule

Hello, again! My grandson, Tanner, has brought some friends today. When Tanner told his friends about our conversation last time, about how to be “cool” and “kind,” they all wanted to be part of the group. I introduced myself to Francie, Rudy, Carmen, Nicole, Stephen, and Mario. I gave them a quick lesson on introductions, showing them how to shake hands, look people in the eye, and give them space, and not be in their face. They laughed at my rhyme when I had them move really close to each other, then move back. Introducing made everyone comfortable with each other. Sometimes meeting new people, especially kids meeting adults, can be a little scary.

I started by asking some questions about being kind. Everyone seemed to know that being kind was being nice, polite, caring, respectful, and aware of people’s feelings. I then asked, “Do you try your best to be kind?” Tanner and the other kids all agreed that being kind wasn’t always easy. Francie said, “Some kids laugh at me when I am nice.” Carmen added, “I’ve been called names when I tried to be kind.”

Stephen asked, “Why do kids tease you when you try to be kind? That doesn’t make sense.” Rudy replied, “Yeah! Why do some kids think that unkind is cool.” I asked them, “Are there kids at your school who think hurting someone’s feelings is okay? All hands went up. “Yes.” “For sure.” “Yes, I see that.” I replied, “How uncool!” They all agreed.

Do kids in your neighborhood have fun picking on others, especially little kids? I think that makes them look “little.” Are kids bullying on your bus? They have no idea how far from cool they look.

Last time, we talked about manners and how they can help us learn to be “Cool Kind Kids.” Manners teach us how to treat other people. They show us how to be “kind” and “cool.” They help us have more friends. You’ll remember that we also talked about The Golden Rule and said it was the basis for good manners. What have you heard about The Golden Rule in school or at home? Many people in the world think it’s an important rule to live by. It says, “Treat others the way you want to be treated.”

What if a friend punches you in the arm, and you punch him back? Is that The Golden Rule? Or, is that “Treat others the way they treat you”? See the difference?

Tanner and his friends are going to create some role-plays to show the difference. Their first set of role-plays will show kids treating their friends the same way the friends have treated them –“he did it to me, so I can do it to him!” In these role-plays, kids are mean and hurtful. Then they’ll create a second set of role-plays showing the same situation but with people acting out The Golden Rule“Treat others the way you want to be treated.”

You can write role-plays just like theirs. Maybe your parents, brothers, sisters, or some friends will want to help you. When you’re writing your role-play, ask yourself, “How do I want to be treated? Do I want to be teased, picked on, or bullied? Or, do I want to be treated with kindness and respect?” Kids who think The Golden Rule is a cool rule are learning how to be “kind” and “cool.”

You can be a “Cool Kind Kid” too!

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