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​Intro from Barbara—Creator of Cool Kind Kid®

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Hello, my name is Barbara Gilmour and I’m the creator of Cool Kind Kid®, [Read more...] fun social skills programs and products to help kids establish healthy relationships, and to give them the tools they need to say “NO” to bullying. As many of you may already know, bullying has reached epidemic levels in the US.

  • 160,000 students stay home from school each day because of bullying.
  • 3 million students are absent each month because they don’t feel safe at school.
  • This year, over 13 million American kids will be bullied at school, online, on the bus, at home, through their cell phones, and on the streets of their towns, making it the most common form of violence young people face today.

If you have a child who has been bullied, you know the negative effects it can have. You also know the frustration involved in getting your child’s school to not only recognize the problem but do something about it. Just as parents are frustrated with the schools’ lack of response, schools are frustrated that parents are not sending their children to school with the social skills tools they need to get along and succeed in school. In the middle of this is our children, who are suffering from the teasing, gossiping, exclusion, and other forms of bullying they experience every day. Kids just want to see the bullying end.

All 50 states now have legislation in place requiring school districts to adopt anti-bullying policies, but most of those policies are reactive. Though it's necessary to deal with bullying incidents as they happen, these reactive solutions aren’t getting to the root cause of the problem. As parents and educators, we need to address the root cause of bullying rather than put band-aids on incidences as they happen. We need to deal with this problem proactively rather than reactively.

Here’s a fun exercise you can do with your kids or students: I always tell kids that if they stay in their rooms 24/7, they don’t need to know any manners or social skills stuff. But if they come out of their rooms they will have to know how to get along with others. At home or in class, ask kids to make a list of all the places they go during a day. Start with getting up, going to the bathroom, getting dressed and leaving their room, seeing family at breakfast [or breakfast at school], seeing a neighbor when they leave the house, walking to school or riding the bus, getting to school, going to lockers, cafeteria, gym class, after school sports, riding or walking home, shopping with mom, getting dinner at fast food place, eating at home, doing homework, going to bed. Then ask then what manners or social skills they think they need in each place to have what you would call ‘good behavior.’ Then offer suggestions for things you think they might want to try doing in each place. I’ve found that kids want to do the right thing in all situations, and they especially want to please the adults in their lives.

If you would like to receive a free copy of this Cool Kind Kid My Day Activity that you can do with your kids, just send us your email via our website email: info@coolkindkid.com and we’ll be happy to send you a copy.

Recognizing and Stopping The Bullying Cycle

My passion for the last 20 years has been to help young children learn how to [Read more...] interact with each other so bullying doesn’t happen. Bullying is such an epidemic now that we must find a way to stop it. But first we must understand the bullying cycle. It’s already been established by research that has shown that the [...]

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Celebrate the Holidays like Cool Kind Kids

Republishing a Cool Kind Kid article from Kidsville News by Barbara Gilmour--Tanner and friends explore how to apply manners and social skills to real life.Thanksgiving Holiday RecollectionsWhen the kids came into class, Ms. Gilmour welcomed them by asking them if they enjoyed their Thanksgiving break.  Tanner, Nicole, Rudy, Carmen, Stephen, Mario, and Truman the Dragon [...]

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10 Ways Cool Kind Kids Reject Bullying

10 Ways Cool Kind Kids Reject Bullying1.  Cool Kind Kids...Stand up for a friend who is being bullied.  When a friend is being bullied is a good time to remember The Golden Rule - "Treat others the way that you want to be treated."  If you were the one being bullied, would you want your [...]

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School can be COOL!

When Tanner, Nicole, Rudy, Carmen, Stephen, Francie and Roberto came to class they were having ‘elevated conversations’ about things that were happening at their schools. I greeted them and asked what they were so upset about. They all wanted to speak at once.Manners Matter at SchoolTanner started with, “Last time we talked about all the places that manners matter. I [...]

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From Incivility to Bullying to Violence - Our Kids are Caught in this Cycle!

Did you know that bullying has escalated to be at epidemic proportions?   More than 13 million children in the US are bullied every year. - TheBullyProject.com 90 percent of 4th to 8th graders report being victims of bullying. Physical bullying increases for elementary ages, peaks for middle school ages, and [...]

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FACEBOOK POST REVIEW - February 19 - February 25, 2017 [In case you missed a few.]

SOCIAL SKILLS TIPS BY BARBARAReally Responsible Roberto is definitely one of the Cool Kind Kids. At home he is always asking how he can help. Because he has a good attitude when asked to do chores, and does them well, he often earns extra privileges. At school, he offers to help when [...]

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FACEBOOK POST REVIEW - February 5 - February 11, 2017 [In case you missed a few.]

ANTI-BULLYING TIPS BY BARBARA Brutus Belligerent Bully is not as kind and caring as the other kids. Because he is big, he likes to intimidate younger, smaller kids. Tanner says Brutus thinks that makes him look cool. It actually turns off the other kids and they think [...]

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Changing a Statistic

Changing a Statistic  by Barbara Gilmour Over the last 10 years [now 20] years or so, multiple surveys have reported that more than 90% of Americans consider rudeness a serious problem in our society. This is a statistic that should surprise no one. We’ve all witnessed road rage on our highways and even on country roads. [...]

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FACEBOOK POST REVIEW - January 8 - January 14, 2017 [In case you missed a few.]

SOCIAL SKILLS TIPS BY BARBARA This is my grandson, Tanner. When he was nine, he asked me why kids were so mean and rude to each other, and why they couldn't be kind and polite to each other. He also wanted to know why some kids think that [...]

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